By Bhavesh Naik, owner of AMBICA Training, Inc.

"I am a small business with one employee - me. How do I look like a big business to the people who call in?" Started the question on an Internet newsgroup for small businesses.

Then the person asking the question went on to explain things that he had already tried. Machines he had installed in his office that rang like telephones with the push of a button (when he was on the phone with someone). A tape recorder that played the background noises of a very busy and, of course, much bigger workplace. The web-site where he listed many of his friends as parts of the management team. A list of foreign offices including one in Hong Kong, one in Singapore and one in Milan.

Now, he was at the end of the rope, looking for even more ways to look like a big business!

True story.

The advice of his peers poured in. List multiple phone numbers. Provide a separate phone number for each of the foreign offices. Don't answer the phone all the time and let the voice mail pick up the phone (just in case people start wondering why the same person answered the phone every time they called).

I could relate to this young man's dilemma. After all, I was a small business myself, working out of the spare bedroom of our condominium. I listened in on the conversation with great interest. I actually thought about trying some of the tips myself. I did not go the extreme that this gentleman went. But I did my share of lying.

Especially when I faced that dreadful question from a prospective customer, "How many people do you have working for you?" I would see the scary scowl on the prospect's face. I felt the pressure on my shoulders, pushing down on me with great force. I knew I had to have a big business or I was gone.

I would mentally count the people who had done anything with my business - delivered a newspaper, picked up the trash from our front door, the UPS man, the cable guy, my wife and answer - faking confidence - "about 8 people."

Heck, if I got the big contract, I would just put a quick ad in the newspaper and round up all the people I needed in a week!

I had to look big. I would get business only if I had a big business. People only wanted to do business with big businesses.

I actually won a couple of contracts this way. And yes, I delivered what I had promised to the customers. But boy it was stressful! And I made very little money on the contracts - despite my long hours and hard work. All the money went to those I had to hire in the nick of time.

Fast-forward a few years. Now I am a proud graduate of the School of Some Very Hard Knocks.

I have often wondered, why is it that us small businesses want to look like big businesses?

It probably has something to do with the moment we start the business. At this point the dream is typically big - employees working for us, big building, may be a huge sign on the top of the building that can be read from miles away.

So we start living our dream from day one. We are basically in denial about the true state of our business. So we tell the things that people want to hear. Or what we think they want to hear.

We find some customers this way. But then things get a little tricky. It becomes harder and harder to hide the facts about the true size of our business. We are a little scared of getting caught. And once in a while we do. And boy, it's embarrassing! We feel smaller and smaller. Until one day we get sick of it all. We get sick and tired of faking it. We get sick of being something that we are not. We… You get the idea.

In the meantime, the competition is catching up with us. It's easy for them to beat us. Why? Because we are playing their game. Because they are making the rules.

Not only that we feel small emotionally. Trying to be something that we are not is also a bad business strategy. In his book, Jump Start Your Business Brain, the author Doug Hall sites results of rating four thousand business concepts on their style and imagery.

According to this study, holding all other dimensions constant, the probability of success is greater when a business's image is based on genuineness, honesty, straight talk, sincerity and authenticity as opposed to competence, excitement or sophistication.

Probability of Success
Genuineness: emotions and perceptions such as authenticity, honesty, sincerity 55%
Competence: serious, intelligent 42%
Excitement: surprising, fun, lively, adventurous 23%
Sophistication: glamorous, romantic, charming 18%

Today, we are inundated with wild promises and marketing hypes. People are skeptical, if not cynical, of every promise we make them. They have gotten very good at sniffing out a fishy tale. If they can't trust us they won't do business with us. When they trust us, when they like us and think that we are the right person for the job, they move the mountains to get us started.

What gradually dawned on me in the course of maturing through my business career is that it does not have to be this way! There are advantages of being small. There are ways to be who we truly are, accept it and be proud of it. This does not mean that we give up on our dream of being a big business some day.

Quite the opposite, in fact. By being authentic, we make our dream happen a little sooner, a little easier.

Being authentic means that we face our realities. We look them in the eye. We turn those realities into points of strength for our businesses. Now we are playing the game of business from the point of strength, not the point of weakness. Now, we play the game on our own turf. We make the rules.

Now when we compete with the big businesses, we have true advantage over them. We find a little corner of the market and rule it. And as we find some success there we grow from there.

Life becomes easier. We become more peaceful. We unlock some of those energies that we have been spending in being something we are not. We put those energies to work in building our business. Our dream of owning and running a big business becomes reality a little sooner, a little easier.

And probably the biggest reward is when we look inside of ourselves and notice how proud we are to be a small business, how proud we are to be taking on those much bigger competitors.

We know, deep inside, that some day, some day soon, we will be running a big business. We will have many employees, many important clients, even a big building on the side of the Interstate 270, even perhaps that sign in big letters that could be seen from miles. Some day, we will be and have all of those things.

While we are on the way though, we will remain proud - proud to be a small business. We will turn each of our so-called weaknesses into strengths. We will carve out a niche in the market where we are the best and the big businesses can't touch us. We will find ways to serve our clients and exceed their expectations, because of, not in spite of, the fact that we are a small business.

When I started the business, I did it mainly because I wanted to call my own shots. I wanted to be free. Unfortunately, I did not quite feel free while I was trying to be something that I was not. But now that I have faced up to and accepted who I really am, I can truly be free. Free to pursue my dreams my way - with pride and joy and a big smile on my face.

Bhavesh Naik is a proud owner of a small business, AMBICA Training, Inc. AMBICA's one-day workshop, Jump Start Your Business Brain, is for small business owners, where the participants rejuvenate their businesses with crystalline clarity, laser focus and exhilarating confidence. Contact Bhavesh at 301-916-4015 or bhavesh@ambica.net.